I wonder how much of the implicit/explicit pressure to keep this space agreeable is a projection of our own internal conflict and anxieties around being disagreeable. That’s partially what it felt like to me when smeone I invited in asked if they could trash talk & my knee-jerk reaction was, ehhhh.
hmm, for me it's more that I really enjoy getting more authentic vulnerable engagement which I think can be shut down by ppl being aggro and harsh
so it's less abt not wanting that and more abt really craving content that I worry would disappear
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Reply · Apr 14, 2023but also I do feel like it's important to have space for all kinds of positive interactions including sharp disagreements n realness abt negative…Quote tweet · Dec 23, 2023yes so true, i feel myself tensing up along my shoulders and arms when i feel socially threatened, and it's like.... nooo we're really not at war…Reply · Sep 13, 2023@hollowearthterf yeah it's difficult to feel comfortable and entitled to take up space vs making yourself as small and accommodating as possibleReply · Dec 13, 2023ig w e/acc ppl i've had nerdy arguments w lots of ppl and witnessed uglier fights, but they feel psychologically safe, like there's a community who…