how should a person respond when they have a bad interaction with another member of their community that suggests the person is untrustworthy & perhaps unsafe to be around?
possibilities: - say nothing- risk friends will be victimized in the same way - gossip while pretending to be friendly- kinda deceptive, only protects ppl who are in on the gossip - share the story in public- risks backlash if the other people is more popular / powerful, can look mean or petty
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Tweet · Dec 8, 2023what is the socially appropriate way to deal with having a strong irrational distrust of someone in your community with mutual friends?Reply · May 5, 2023that's actually a difficult bar though when ppl are rough and unresponsive and do crazy stuff like choking and throwing you around without asking…Quote tweet · Dec 8, 2023now from the other side- what if many people have this irrational negative reaction to you and as a result you're frequently outcast / scapegoat?…Reply · Dec 29, 2023@MailePRMedia yes, particularly if you have a good mental model for what circumstances make them untrustworthy, and avoid those situations