are you sure this isn't just the heroine's journey. you've felt helpless and at the whim of other people's choices and now you're trying to become agentic.
it's gender coded for me bec I'm "intimidating" to guys in a lot of ways and this was the way to make myself more dateable, to be passive and secondary and follow their lead
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Reply · Jul 7, 2023@Tapeda_ it's strange but I feel like "telling ppl exactly how I want to be treated n perceived" is too feminine for me?Reply · Jun 13, 2023@LastNPCAlex idk more like to really embrace my "masculine" traits that I've avoided bec wanting to conform to ppl's expectationsReply · Aug 29, 2026@RichardHanania shouldn't it have a female character as an option so women can avoid mapping their sense-action loop to male embodiment if they…Reply · Apr 6, 2023often when dati g it felt like I needed to make myself *smaller* so my date could be the relatively stronger leader... I'm not 10/10 gorgeous to be w…