Yeah, I think it can be counterproductive for some (anxious people stuck in situations where they just don't have a lot of agency can blame themselves more, can lean towards "just buckle up and get over it" if not tempered well with empathy) but overall it's fairly good.
it's a tricky balance and I don't think we always get it right, but I feel more empowered by "look at what IS in your control" than "you're a victim of the system" framing
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