But I feel that if I was growing up these days I'd struggle with gender identity and go down the path of presenting as non-binary or male, try hormones, go to therapy, etc- and that my life would've been worse for the struggle.
To be clear, I have several younger trans cousins and I'd never want to put limits on their lives or dictate how they should look or act according to their gender. But I'd prefer we focus on shared humanity and individual difference, rather than identity group traits and norms.