@proetrie Pause the part of your brain that churns to identify and voice a witty reply... Just absorb what the other person is saying, don't formulate a response until there's a pause signifying that they're done with what they wanted to express.
@proetrie To do this, let go of the need to respond to every point, the desire to impress with clever retorts... Stop controlling the conversation just let it flow and get comfortable with silence.