@Duderichy Yeah I do think of it as a gift when someone tries to engage productively with me when they’re unhappy with me.. blasting each other with anger isn’t good for a relationship, but neither is silently lowering your expectations and increasing your walls without explanation
@Duderichy And yet I do that second thing a lot because I am pretty pessimistic about whether engaging with someone who’s upset me will actually resolve anything or just be throwing more energy into a relationship that isn’t gonna work