@eigenrobot At the same time, I’ve had guys choke me out of nowhere when it absolutely is not something I want at all… Ppl need to ask for consent for specific acts and not assume everyone wants extreme stuff sprung on them
@eigenrobot This experience was one of the factors in me quitting dating for many years… men not just hurting women but screwing over their fellow men when the risk of negative experiences outweighs the possibility of a positive relationship