@LumiFantasy also the ones who move on to a new relationship I sometimes feel are keeping in touch as like a backup option or for their ego or something and I dislike that vibe so I maybe do a slow fade rather than be some in quasi emotional cheating triangle
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Reply · Oct 13, 2022@elfathewitch Awww yes it’s so tough to figure out healthy relationship patterns when your instincts are mistrained by trauma! I quit dating for a…Reply · Jan 31, 2023@felurian8 hmm I really dislike feeling "chased", presumably due to past trauma, so I've tended to get into relationships by just friendliness irl and…Reply · May 23, 2023@LumiFantasy being stalked and not given a choice makes me skittish, insecure grabby vibes scare me offReply · Jan 6, 2024@rplevy yeah it just seems annoying to me, in my mind that's when u switch to being friends, not like, low-effort low-expectations "relationship"