@RokoMijic @orthonormalist she could have phrased it more clearly but she has a point- "I want you to want to do the dishes" = I want you to care about contributing to the household/ I want you to care about my well-being & our relationship
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Reply · Nov 3, 2022@ReneeSolana I added the “or variables” because maybe you want it to be less about deserving and more about timing or family relationships or ..?Reply · Nov 23, 2024@quotidiania @nobuhojimichaan @Porter97977215 i feel like the communication style how you communicate "i would like you to deal w X" is kinda separate…Reply · Jul 4, 2023@bobz44 does caring for someone mean playing along with their... idk whether misunderstanding, delusion, lie, grift?Reply · Feb 17, 2025@irene_scl i mean stakes in the sense of *caring*, not being indifferent to which future happens