there's a hard to discern but important difference between pushing someone to do something they internally endorse vs pushing someone to overrule their best judgment...
imo the second one is risky & more harmful than just the first order impact of a mistake... overruling your own judgement creates a victim mindset & blame & inner conflict among parts
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Reply · Mar 27, 2024@lillybilly299 😞 i feel like such a horrible person when i pressure someone into doing something, even if i fully believe it is good for themReply · Nov 25, 2023@GreyMindMatters sighhhhh good point... what's the practical difference in judging a decision vs a person?Reply · Jan 20, 2024@noharamnofoul lol yeahhhh i think it is easier to get pushback and insist "no seriously you kinda suck in this particular way" than to gently suggest…Reply · Mar 16, 2023@tenobrus the judgement itself is an intuitive thing, the scales shift and now I feel unsettled around them and that I should be wary imo the input to…