@Malcolm_Ocean imo one shift is to mostly focus on the future instead of the past; another is to focus on what IS under my control vs what isn't... neither of these need to be a fight about blame, imo "the world is complicated, bad luck happens, I'm choosing to focus on my agency in the future to maximize my odds of good outcomes"
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Reply · Oct 27, 2021@BlckCatBlckSky Stoicism / compartmentalizing / focusing on the future rather than rumination seems healthier tbh.Reply · Oct 10, 2023@tautologer yeah, now that i'm thinking abt it maybe my real problem is slightly different... resignation to futility of long term plans -> I got too…Reply · Aug 21, 2023@HephaistosF @chaosprime 😑 you know I disagree w a lot of this framing... bad shit happens to ppl, we're not guaranteed happiness, but it's also our…Reply · Jun 2, 2022@samue1h @_holyweather Certainly seems like a factor in learning from the past to predict the future, which is of utmost importance for the…