Have kinda been thinking about this all day... that I'm not good at getting into real fights with people... it's a tough skill to practice if you're avoidant - ppl understandably choose not to engage & it's easy to justify my own conflict avoidance as like, choosing where to focus my energy or that a nuanced position is less likely to be attacked... and picking a dumb fight with bait tweets doesn't even do it because I'm not emotionally attached to my original statement - I need real conflict I care about