@Aella_Girl more thoughts on feedback... (w caveat I'm not into bdsm, if that's the context, diff advice applies?) tentatively asking "what do you want me to do?" or "tell me what you like" creates a submissive vibe w her in control, can be fun if that's the dynamic you want, but if not, the mixed messages & lack of confidence can be a turnoff if you're leading and don't want reluctance / "ugh no stop" reaction, escalate in a logical sequence and each time start to initiate, then slow and observe- does she moan, invite you, move towards you, or is she pulling away / looking hesitant? if she's eager, then you can push ahead w confidence (or tease more just for fun); if she's hesitant then dial it back before she shifts into resisting- can be just a pause & steady gaze, or shift focus to something else, or go back to whatever she was clearly enjoying and try a different path if you're really uncertain what she wants, ask a direct question like "would you like it if I <<insert specific details>>?" and pay attention to how she reacts... if she's turned on by the idea she might arch her back, suddenly flush, pulse race, shiver, moan or sigh, bite her lip, grab you or pull you closer... etc 😅 otoh if she's really not into something, be ok with that- you're not gonna improve the vibe in the moment by protesting that your ex liked it or you read that girls like it... if she's generally resistant, back off and gently, affectionately, with eye contact, ask her if she doesn't want to go any further- and then be quiet and give her time to reply... take further mixed signals as a no for now / let her explain what she wants- there may be some complicated story behind reluctance, which can eventually build connection if you listen & act w emotional maturity.