@IvyAstrix @ad0rnai @SimoneSyed and I think there's a disconnect as tpot moves from online community to IRL online conflict is mostly limited to hostile words & exclusion, where moderation can just delete the words / account and shrug and move on... it's easy to say "everyone involved in a conflict is at fault and gets timeout"- I think is not ideal, but is workable and often more true than not that ppl just need to regulate their own emotions w IRL the consequences get bigger and you're more forced to deal w the harms, and otoh you can't just delete ppl like you can delete accounts...