@redaction to me the two opposing expectations are: - own your desires & intentions, don't be ashamed or apologize for feeling & expressing attraction to a potential partner - respect her agency & right to say no at any point, be able to handle rejection without taking it out on her
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Reply · Aug 21, 2023@a_real_society I think it feels better to ask early & often vs. be selective & build it up and feel awful when maybe the rejection isn't about you…Reply · May 2, 2024@garybasin no, that's exactly the point- my ability to say no for myself is very important to me and i don't want to put myself in a situation where…Reply · Aug 15, 2022@zeit_sinn Presumably she likes you on some level but you haven’t yet won her over completely, so she’s keeping it ambiguous to avoid having to reject…Reply · Sep 29, 2026@disharmonesia idk i can be worn down or intimidated but you're not winning points just scaring me into compliance and then i'll go no contact when i…