@gptbrooke yeah, a few thoughts... if u feel guilty / conflicted abt it, do you write the emotional turmoil into the DMs -> emotional contagion & bad reaction? is it unrealistic expectation to want ppl to accept a form of rejection without feeling bad & expressing it? would they feel as bad or worse without the DM but you just wouldn't be aware so it's easier on you but not actually easier on them if you silently unfollow? is the DM a gift of ur energy - giving them clarity & ur presence to experience their reaction / answer questions - and maybe that's a gift you want to give ppl u still like & respect?