was thinking abt this wrt "mom is gonna find my twitter oh noes!" -> ppl responding "wtf u have no boundaries w ur parents" ... and me feeling yeah, but it's nbd? we don't spend much time in conflict & when we do there's underlying mutual trust & caring for each other's interests & desire to not make the conflict worse -> w time desire to see each other's perspective & resolve it... idk what ugly total war conflict looks like w my parents because we've never had it, i've never explored those boundaries