visa makes good points wrt DMs! mine aren't nearly the volume he gets- i enjoy chit-chat via DM or mention on the TL, when i'm available... but starting with "hey" & then no follow up gives me a vague sense of dread and tiredness- ask 4 what u want! https://x.com/visakanv/status/1736139948464767033
My DMs are limited to ppl I follow partially because of spam, but also because too many "hey" DMs w zero previous context were giving me anxiety- I much prefer to chat in public (on TL) first and only switch to DM when there's some rapport & trust