idk if just realizing that subconscious tension is there, and that it is exhausting me and is unnecessary and i don't want to do it, is enough to stop? i've had relationships where i didn't do this, at least not so much.... 🤔
oh and tbc current partner hadn't done anything wrong or given me any reason to be so on edge.... i mean idk maybe contributing to it somehow in some subtle way, but really pls don't blame him for long ago trauma