aella's audience disproportionately consists of sexually inexperienced socially awkward men who are notably bad at distinguishing desire vs terror in the eyes- what is their takeaway? it plants the idea a woman doing normal shy girl things secretly wants to be raped.

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and who does this sort of tweet benefit? not the shy awkward vanilla girl who likely can't change all her upbringing & mannerisms; not the autistic dude who is now in even greater confusion as to how & when to initiate good consensual sex.

confusion & double standards around consent only benefits rapey dudes who can point to this sort of tweet as "i thought her no meant yes" and high status slutty women who can have ambiguous consent sex and then retroactively declare it rape or fine as it suits them

actually i should say more- there's a really unhealthy pattern w consent fuckery where men think they're aggressing consensually and then after the fact their actions are characterized as assault and their guilt is used to manipulate them