i've never been to an orgy and feel anxious about ppl being too confident i want sex and pressure -> not listening to myself to insist No if i don't want it, or that ppl will be too rough bec i'm sensitive and things other ppl like i find painful... what am i missing out on tho?
🤔 maybe i'm just put off by mental image of dark kink whips n leather which isn't my vibe? imagining same thing but fairy lights & glitter & diaphanous regency gowns in a perennial garden gazebo is far more appealing
hmm also i've never had sex w someone on the same day i first had a substantive conversation w them... idk how i'd feel without the build up of flirting & desire & holding back & time to fantasize