🤔 maybe i'm just put off by mental image of dark kink whips n leather which isn't my vibe? imagining same thing but fairy lights & glitter & diaphanous regency gowns in a perennial garden gazebo is far more appealing
hmm also i've never had sex w someone on the same day i first had a substantive conversation w them... idk how i'd feel without the build up of flirting & desire & holding back & time to fantasize