Then the actual session. He asks you just enough about your most recent related memory so you evoke the feelings you want to change, then he coaches you through feeling it fully & intensely in your body while also being safe & grounded so you get through it
It was pretty tiring and not exactly fun, but afterwards i noticed that there was this absence of tension in a particular spot in my back i'd previously been numb to & didn't notice until it was gone, but being freed of it was a feeling of relief till i adapted to the new normal
i also noticed i wasn't so emotionally reactive in the same way anymore when previously triggering things would happen. this was pretty remarkable because the trauma was like 18 years in the past and i'd never found anything else to help actually feel *better* about it