thinking a lot about negative feedback... twitter doesn't give enough sometimes- you just get unfollowed or blocked and that's it, no explanation. but otoh negative feedback is difficult, it's focusing on what you don't want and can be used in bad faith to create guilt & anxiety to manipulate someone, or can be inaccurate because unskillful or based on insufficient info. so you can't just accept negative characterization, have to keep it outside your sense of self while considering how it might be true, and if it IS, inverting it into a positive vision of who you want to be instead before incorporating it (otherwise you risk self fulfilling negative image & resignation)