agree w QT- when a woman rejects you and doesn't give you a clear reason, sometimes it's that she doesn't really know why, but also it's hard to tell from the outside what's going on and the more humble conclusion is "we're too different, not a match" https://x.com/zinniaa_3/status/1885135638556520498
sincere feedback is a gesture of respect, that you'll benefit from it. which doesn't necessarily mean changing- you first have to evaluate whether it is: 1) an easy fix 2) pointing to a deeper pattern needing personal growth 3) won't fix, an honest signal of who you are
imo a lot of dating angst is downstream of getting this evaluation wrong. ppl who make shallow fixes when it's actually 2 or 3 will get frustrated when the next date tells them to switch it back, plus that they're disingenuous / creepy- the shallow changes are taking them out of…