sincere feedback is a gesture of respect, that you'll benefit from it. which doesn't necessarily mean changing- you first have to evaluate whether it is: 1) an easy fix 2) pointing to a deeper pattern needing personal growth 3) won't fix, an honest signal of who you are
imo a lot of dating angst is downstream of getting this evaluation wrong. ppl who make shallow fixes when it's actually 2 or 3 will get frustrated when the next date tells them to switch it back, plus that they're disingenuous / creepy- the shallow changes are taking them out of…