imo the struggle of dating is to find someone who can take up residence in your mind https://x.com/mimi10v3/status/1889782481278345545
the happiness of the beloved-in-your-brain becomes part of our own utility function- hence ppl getting discouraged and breaking up over "i feel like i can't make you happy" they also reflect on our self perception- so we often idealize new relationships, complimenting ourselves…