@lumpenspace i agree w you it's a bad meme that undermines self-discip

Feb 23, 2025, 22:32 EST

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@lumpenspace i agree w you it's a bad meme that undermines self-discipline n agency ... but there's a related change i *did* need to make wrt not internalizing other ppl's expectations and then resenting ppl for decisions i made due to social anxiety https://x.com/mimi10v3/status/1893859549821460875

Quoted mimi

the other aspect of "no self-coercion" has been untangling what *i* want from wanting to want what other people want from me. it's both becoming more aware of my preferences and developing the habit of acting on them - saying no, not going along w social obligations, not…