there's been a cultural shift to normalize all preferences as valid, where satisfying them is intrinsically good and denying them bad. this was corrective to a culture of conformity to social roles regardless of individual feeling but is insufficient to the challenge of building…
every human is a bundle of contradictory preferences and we know that satisfying every impulse is not in our own best interest- we stop eating before entirely full as it takes time to experience satiety; we get up and do things when we'd rather relax and nap; we refrain from loud…
untangling your wants allows you to live with less willpower- frees up willpower to be applied to harder things. imo this is an underrated skill made harder by the cultural narrative that preferences are immutable