being part of that community is a different lifestyle- you're held to higher standards and expected to give a lot to other community members, there's a dense network of relations and gossip flows quickly to update reputation, which then determines the benefits you receive
one of the weirder phenomena- kids were generally expected to move out at 18, but simultaneously they'd often move into the basement of another church family who were friends of their parents. the density of working for and living with each other creates a lot of basis for gossip…
so then dating. there's lots of "youth" and "young adult" church-sponsored social events where you meet all the other singles and asking each other out is encouraged both generally and with specific nudges when someone thinks you'd be compatible. the women are much less guarded…