dating this way allows women to stay in an open receptive mindset- pressure for sex is restrained by community norms so they're not continually asserting boundaries and saying no. friends and family will encourage matches with "good guys" and talk up their less visible virtues,…
anyway, so, when couples get serious they spend a lot of time doing things together in the community- they'll be asked to run events and babysit for other families. there's pressure on the guy to propose if they seem happy together and for engagements to last months not years
and marriages are taken seriously as a commitment, by the community as well as the individuals involved. the memes are that marriage is tough but worth it, to not speak ill of your spouse, to be loving and gentle with each other, to be patient and forgiving, to speak with…