why are some people way more difficult to coordinate plans with? to rule out obvious possibilities, no this doesn't seem correlated with how much of a priority i am or how busy they are
with a majority of people, making plans feels like a collaboration where we're trying to get to clear mutual yes- we both share constraints and preferences and make suggestions back and forth to narrow in on concrete plans, commit to them clearly, confirm once with enthusiasm,…
but with some people it doesn't feel like this at all- it's as if they've never made plans before and don't recognize the script?