fwiw i would have appreciated a heads up before being tagged into whatever you were trying to do. otoh, it has been enlightening: i've seen several mutuals reply to you w pearl clutching accusations about putting women at risk by hosting the rpg, but i was tagged and replied that i was one of the women there and was open to DMs on the topic, but i received zero DMs concerned about me or asking about the other women's wellbeing. i did however receive several flirtatious advances- not inappropriate in themselves, but the pattern of "here's a woman who might be vulnerable to a cult leader" -> flurry of flirtation is indicative i've also received DMs from several ppl saying that they had a similar experience to what i'd tweeted but were scared of the social ostracism if they said anything publicly. as a friend i had to tell them they're not wrong- this has earned me unfollows and blocks and the only upside is personal integrity