@adastroworld nah, ppl i privately know are into kink are some of aella's most perceptive critics because they have the familiarity to see the difference between normal bdsm and the version which encourages randomly violating ppl's boundaries who haven't enthusiastically consented to it
@adastroworld wrt paying for sex i'm speaking to the men who are paying aella for coaching or going to slutcon to learn to flirt or paying for her substack for sex advice, or reading the atrocious dating advice on LessWrong because *they* are looking for a relationship not a sexworker