the whole point of the latter being to remove the trauma aspect entirely, which is going to go against any identities you have built up around it. it's extremely common for people to resist this with "but I cant forgive" or "but they need to pay" or "but I can't trust them" or whatever.
yeah that last one is the thing- I got woken up in middle of the night by someone pounding on my front door and yelling at me to let them in and trying to open the door and I just felt terrified they'd grab me and hurt me if I did... how do I not feel scared of a drunk person acting aggressive?
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