@alterwyx an obligation no, but... interacting w someone routinely over months, remembering details about them, making an effort when they ask for something... it's an investment and I'd rather do it w ppl who reciprocate the interest & effort...
@alterwyx but at scale over time here it's easy to shift to "meh, easy come easy go, someone else will take their place" ... but I also feel like this attitude is kinda careless & shallow
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Reply · Jul 23, 2024@sylphidian oh i do the opposite- if i don't like the guy i want to split the check & have zero obligation for further contact; vs if i do like him…Reply · Jun 28, 2023@alterwyx yeah but also need the commitment mechanism of embarrassment to help keep me to it!Reply · Feb 6, 2024@GreyMindMatters i don't think so exactly... it happens when you spend time w ppl you would like to understand / love?Reply · Jun 27, 2023@rhymeswithvocal ask for details, try to evaluate their motivations, consider to what extent I care, but in the end mostly trust them