@alterwyx an obligation no, but... interacting w someone routinely over months, remembering details about them, making an effort when they ask for something... it's an investment and I'd rather do it w ppl who reciprocate the interest & effort...
@alterwyx but at scale over time here it's easy to shift to "meh, easy come easy go, someone else will take their place" ... but I also feel like this attitude is kinda careless & shallow
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