@Aella_Girl being responsive but not reactive... due to past trauma I will always "tap the brakes" at least once before fully letting go with someone new... it can be a very subtle thing, I tense up and they notice and hesitate, that reaction is reassuring... vs if they're oblivious Ill keep escalating till it becomes a full "no", or if they overreact and freak out about being rejected 🙅♀️
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Reply · Nov 25, 2023@georgejrjrjr @qephatziel avoiding having to reject ppl because it scares me because of past traumaReply · Aug 21, 2023@a_real_society I think it feels better to ask early & often vs. be selective & build it up and feel awful when maybe the rejection isn't about you…Reply · Jan 16, 2024@IvyAstrix ah yes... or when i respond positively to their touch vs kinda pulling away / ignoring itReply · Nov 12, 2023@redaction to me the two opposing expectations are: - own your desires & intentions, don't be ashamed or apologize for feeling & expressing attraction…