@animalologist @SonyaTwete so true.... insisting on seeing them as perfect is kinda lying to yourself & pressuring them to *be* perfect in every way every minute creates chaos whenever imperfect reality intrudes upon the fantasy- cognitive dissonance -> denial, blaming others, or disillusionment & end of relationship
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Reply · Jul 16, 2023@megs_io sigh, the gap between expectation & reality ... if an imperfect moment snaps them out of the fantasy they'll react like they've been deceived…Reply · Jan 25, 2024@RokoMijic lol.. lots of imperfect ppl find relationships w other ppl who are imperfect in compatible waysReply · Nov 17, 2023@animalologist @SonyaTwete also imo fucks up intimacy if you can't really be vulnerable about mistakes & flaws... ofc is also bad to bond over flaws &…Reply · Apr 16, 2023worse in other ways perhaps... idk it's a sad mix of overwhelming unmet needs and insecurity and unreasonable fairy tale expectations