and the link between the emotion and the effort, and the expectation of effort if u express the emotion... i don't express things nearly as often as i feel them because of that link and then even moreso to tell someone you love them and to act accordingly for awhile creates way more expectation and feels like you need a reason to stop the effort....
and wrt the emotional experience, i think it feels good for me but it doesn't directly do anything for others except insofar as it motivates actions ... kinda feel this way abt buddhist metta practice too- sure from the inside ur feeling compassion, and that can work changes internally, but until it manifests in the world as different behavior.... idk sometimes i think ppl (incl me!) just feel the cozy warmth and leave it at that?
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Quote tweet · Dec 9, 2023@bayeslord how do you feel about what's downstream of that feeling, how you act on it? https://x.com/mimi10v3/status/1732887941259657694Reply · Oct 1, 2023@BecomingCritter huh this is not the answer I expected at all! I thought metta & empathy feel basically the same? how can they be different?Reply · May 16, 2022@_ktsugi_ So you think of empathy as an action rather than a feeling? Affective empathy doesn't feel like a choice to me, except the choice to…Quote tweet · Dec 9, 2023sometimes it works this way, other times i'm holding a lot of tension, feel it in my body as much as emotions... 🤷♀️…