i appreciate intellectual honesty and pliable minds that learn and update but also push back stubbornly when something doesn't make sense
also have been thinking about geek social fallacies wrt exclusion etc- i really do think it's fine to not like everyone and for ppl to have different constellations of friends that don't all like each other https://plausiblydeniable.com/five-geek-social-fallacies/
and it's awkward to pretend that preschool rules apply and everyone has to be friends with everyone... friends unless there's a good argument for why a person sucks and then everyone has to ostracize them and they get upset about being "cancelled" and feel like a social victim