also have been thinking about geek social fallacies wrt exclusion etc- i really do think it's fine to not like everyone and for ppl to have different constellations of friends that don't all like each other https://plausiblydeniable.com/five-geek-social-fallacies/
and it's awkward to pretend that preschool rules apply and everyone has to be friends with everyone... friends unless there's a good argument for why a person sucks and then everyone has to ostracize them and they get upset about being "cancelled" and feel like a social victim