imo people are overly focused on the search for the perfect match at the expense of focusing on how to build a good relationship with whoever they find
it's too easy to kinda suck in corrosive little ways, build up discontentment, break up, and tell yourself "they weren't the one, i should be more selective next time" and go back to yearning
i have 4 fundamentalist cousins who all dated and married good partners via their trad culture (still, dc, they all have college degrees and married in their mid 20s) and i think there's some merits to how it used to work