so then dating. there's lots of "youth" and "young adult" church-sponsored social events where you meet all the other singles and asking each other out is encouraged both generally and with specific nudges when someone thinks you'd be compatible. the women are much less guarded…
people date lightly at first- fun daytime activities, double date with friends, flirtatiously get to know each other while gossiping about their dates with friends and family who encourage/discourage the match depending. many of the dates are "meh" fizzles, but they're low…
dating this way allows women to stay in an open receptive mindset- pressure for sex is restrained by community norms so they're not continually asserting boundaries and saying no. friends and family will encourage matches with "good guys" and talk up their less visible virtues,…