kinda recapping from yesterday wrt my gender identity ... I don't have the internal sense of gender that others describe ... maybe bec I have some masc nerd traits from birth? maybe bec I was a misfit n didn't socialize enough? maybe bec my parents raised me kinda gender neutral?
I also feel anxiety abt some ppl's sexual / romantic pursuit of me, esp if they're not really listening & understanding me & if they persist when I've tried to discourage... and maybe this is bec of past trauma, maybe by gender change I just want to not be a parasocial target?
result is that I often dislike the gendered way ppl engage w me here- condescending, negging, claiming ownership, bossing me around, treating me as irrational or like a child, assuming I need someone to provide for me, assuming I want babies, assuming I'm non-technical
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